DIVORCE COACHING

Coaching for Those Considering Divorce

We can help you stop and reflect before you move forwards and consider if divorce really is the best option for you. This isn’t marriage guidance counselling. You meet the coach alone to decide for yourself if you are making the right decision for you according to your particular situation, which may well not be the same situation your spouse finds themselves in. Once you’ve gained clarity and direction, you can come together and decide with confidence on your next steps. It helps you both come to a conclusion, on your own and then together, about whether you want to work on the marriage or not. It also helps you identify how you both contributed to the marriage reaching this place and how not to take those bad habits into the next part of your life, be it together or apart.

Coaching Through Divorce

On the average, it can take family members approximately four to eight years to recover from the emotional and financial expense of a bitter divorce, where the focus is on assigning blame and fault and wanting to win and have control. Going to court with this attitude is an expensive risk.Coaching through divorce helps you to deal to your negative emotions, adjust your ideas towards the loss of your marriage, and regain a sense of power and control in your own right.

Life After Divorce

Everyone’s divorce story is different. Maybe you had been married for decades, maybe just a year or so. Maybe you have children, maybe you don’t. Maybe the divorce was your idea and maybe it was your partner’s, or maybe you both agreed that separation was best. Maybe you’re relieved, maybe you’re heartbroken — or a bit of both. But however you got here, the question now is where do you go from here? And how do you figure out who you are and what you want as a newly single person? What is your new life going to look like, and how do you start moving in that direction?

At One Life Coaching we will help you move forwards positively through a program of steps that addresses the areas that would otherwise hold you back. We will help you address:

Grief:
Nobody gets married thinking, “I hope we can get divorced someday!” Even if, by the time you split, the divorce was something you wanted, a divorce still represents a loss, not only of the past but equally of a future life that you will have no doubt envisioned and played out in your head.

Negative Feelings and Emotions:
It’s common to feel shame, guilt, bitterness and emptiness as you lose a way of life that you believed would be forever – even if the divorce is your idea. It’s just as common to want to sweep these emotions under the carpet. Working through them can be tough and you may learn things about yourself along the way that are just as tough. At One Life Coaching we help you dissolve these negative emotions so that you can enter the next stage of life as the authentic you.

Learn to like yourself, Often!
Divorce coaching also helps you balance your outlook so that your focus is not solely on your divorce but on creating a plan for the future, a new identity and discovering new talents and resources which will lead you into a positive second chance in a new life.

Divorce is a long process so as your divorce coach we go along for the ride – not as legal counsel but as a guide and to hold your hand when it gets tough. We understand that family and friends can often be biased, handing out advice that projects their own feelings and this can be greatly unhelpful when going through a divorce. We aim to create a safe, supportive, nonjudgmental and patient environment. Our objectivity helps you define and redefine your goals allowing you to discover what really matters moving forwards.